# Do Not Use Others As Means Today I saw someone saying "tfw no gf" and instantly found it wrong. So I autistically thought about what exactly is wrong with it. The answer was that he treats other people as means. And I realized that this is not related to gf/bf stuff at all. By the same reason, "tfw no friend" is equally wrong. Looking for a partner itself is wrong. Think of dating apps. "Find a partner and start a family" is not different. It's just a matter of scale. Only after you fall in love with someone, wishing you became the romantic companion of the person and helped each other is acceptable. "I want a partner and the person seems good" is using the person as a means and degrading the dignity of the person. The person should be a purpose. Not a means. By the same reason, hiring a wageslave is usually wrong. It usually treats a wageslave as a tool. But if an artisan hires unskilled people to teach them, I think it's fine. Note that a worker cooperative doesn't have the problem compared to a traditional company.